The Ember Within: The Third Step in Becoming

Taylor & Lauren
2 days ago
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“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”

-Rumi

November comes with a hush. The air sharpens, the trees stand bare, and the light softens into gold. This is not the month of blazing sun or rushing wind - it is the month of ember. In the quiet of late autumn, we learn to tend what is small but steady inside us. Even when the world feels cold and dark, there is something within you that does not falter. Something glowing quietly beneath the ashes. This month, we honor that ember. We honor our quiet fire.

Why We Tend the Ember

In a world that glorifies being loud, fast, and full of energy, we forget the power of stillness. We forget that there is strength in simply enduring, and in keeping the flame alive no matter how faint it seems. The ember is your quiet center - the part of you that holds your resilience, your memories, and your hope. It does not demand to be seen or celebrated; it asks only to be tended. Some seasons are not meant for blazing, but for glowing gently, gathering strength, and waiting for the right moment to rise again. By tending your ember now, you honor the truth that you are already enough, exactly as you are.

We're a little mesmerized by the golden ratio - the way it shows up everywhere once you start looking for it. In the spiral of a seashell, the way leaves grow on a stem, and the pattern of seeds in a sunflower. It’s quiet and easy to miss, but it’s everywhere. Even in chaos, there’s something steady and beautiful holding it all together. That’s what resilience feels like. Not some big, dramatic comeback, but the way you keep showing up, one small turn at a time, even when no one notices. Like the spiral, you just keep going.

This month is an invitation to rest. It's an invitation to hold yourself tenderly and to trust that you don’t have to be a roaring fire to be enough - that your ember is sacred too. The ember reminds us that you do not have to be everything all at once...you only have to keep going.

Tending Your Inner Flame

This helps you connect with your own warmth and resilience.

What You’ll Need:

A candle or small fire
A cozy blanket or shawl
A journal
A quiet space

Steps:

1️⃣ Light your candle and sit somewhere comfortable, wrapped in your blanket.

2️⃣ Close your eyes and place a hand over your chest.

3️⃣ Imagine a soft, golden light glowing in your heart - small, steady, unyielding.

4️⃣ Breathe deeply. With each inhale, picture the ember growing warmer. With each exhale, let it settle deeper.

5️⃣ When ready, open your eyes and write: What keeps me warm? What sustains me when everything else falls away?

6️⃣ Sit with your answers and thank yourself and your ember.

Journal Prompts

For those who want to reflect more deeply:

When in my life have I felt quietly strong?
What sustains me in hard times?
Where do I need to rest and let myself simply be?

This month, wrap yourself in scents that feel warm, smoky, and comforting - like sitting by the hearth.

🌲 Cedar & Vetiver - grounding and earthy

🔥 Smoked Orange & Cinnamon - cozy and spiced

🖤 Use a candle, spray, or soap to envelop yourself in quiet warmth whenever needed.

Even in the longest nights, you carry the ember of your own light. You do not have to roar or blaze to be powerful. You only have to keep tending the warmth that lives in you - quiet, steady, sacred. This month, may you rest in that glow. May you trust your ember. And may you know...it will never go out.